my marriage

The biggest fear that I have is that someday if I would have to opt for an arranged marriage …what will my plight be like ?? Though couples who have had love marriages warn me that love marriages are more disastrous than arranged ones … I am not completely assured .

Someday in a couple of years may be , my parents will ask me , “ are you ready for marriage ?? “There is no question of saying “no” then coz I cant go through the pain of explaining them as to why I am not if really I am not … coz I know I will never be ready … So I say a “YES”

Now they will make a profile of mine at a matrimony site . make drafts and redraft the ad they would give in the local newspaper’s matrimony column.. Letters will start reaching our address , guys will show up on the site who will be interested in my profile …

Though I have not gathered much experience in these 23 years ..but I have understood one thing … that in this settlement called marriage … guys look for the gal’s looks and body features ( no compromises on that ) and gals look at the guy’s wallet …

My parents will then start sorting ..the guy has to be elder to me , of my caste or higher caste , a bit presentable ( this clause will added by me ), taller than me , as much or may be a little more qualified from what I am and obviously earning a good salary .. 1,2,3,4…ok now that makes 5 demands … basic ones … With due regards to all the eligible bachelors out there how many do u think will satisfy these demands …. Hardly 5 or 6 at max..

By the final year of college or by two years at job , most people end up choosing their life partners … So I have to rely on loosers like me ..who were unable to wrap things up ( wel I still have 2 years of job left …some miracle might happen then ) and have chosen to rely on their parents.. I have 2 meet this 5 people and I have to choose .. I will surrender myself in the hands of fate and choose someone on whom I would be vaguely interested in and who I will think has some interest in me …

A few months ago a cousin of mine got married . hers was an arranged marriage but by the time they got married which was a year after meeting for the first time , it appeared that they have been seeing each other for quite sometime …such was the fire .

A friend of mine once said that his sister and would be brother in law who also were introduced by their parents clicked so well that they had a pre marriage honeymoon !! I guess few people are as lucky as that coz I heard in some cases even post marriage honeymoons are disastrous ..

I remember reading a blog in ibibo that a gal was ready to have a divorce as the honeymoon was not that great !!! she sure had reasons !! But the biggest problem nowadays in arranged marriages is you cannot TRUST people ..

sometimes 5 years are not enough in knowing the real person and 5 days ??

What if a partner clings to his past ..the other is screwed ..

What if a partner is homosexual and has hidden it …the other doesn’t get screwed ..( sorry 4 the slang!!)

What if they realize that they just don’t click …both are screwed …

The bottomline .. its all fate …

the Alchemist who knew about the truths of this world had said ....the biggest mistake one does is not to do anything in life and then blame it on fate .. But mr alchemist …there are some things in life where we cannot do anything but just wait n watch ..as life slowly unfolds its mysteries !!!!